“Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.”

I got up at 3:15AM on April 29th, 2011 to watch the Royal Wedding. I did it partly because I had gotten up super-early to watch Charles and Di’s glorious but ill-fated affair, which was like a true fairly tale for the adolescent I was then. 

But this time around, as a full-grown woman, I appreciated it much more, not because of the over the top (hats) pomp and circumstance, or the chance to see Elton John and his partner in full morning dress, and especially not to see Victoria Beckham, who looked like a big snot-nose, as if she was there on sufferance. 

No, I’m so happy that I got to watch the ceremony because if I hadn’t, I wouldn’t have heard the homily, delivered by the Bishop of London Richard Chartres.  Aside from the homily delivered at my own wedding, this was the most beautiful wedding homily I’ve ever heard.  Gabe, who’s 5, liked the fighter jet flyover the most.  As for me, it was the homily (reprinted below), and it even included poetry!

“Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.” So said St Catherine of Siena whose festival day it is today.  Marriage is intended to be a way in which man and woman help each other to become what God meant each one to be, their deepest and truest selves.

Many are full of fear for the future of the prospects of our world but the message of the celebrations in this country and far beyond its shores is the right one – this is a joyful day!  It is good that people in every continent are able to share in these celebrations because this is, as every wedding day should be, a day of hope.

In a sense every wedding is a royal wedding with the bride and the groom as king and queen of creation, making a new life together so that life can flow through them into the future.

William and Catherine, you have chosen to be married in the sight of a generous God who so loved the world that he gave himself to us in the person of Jesus Christ.

And in the Spirit of this generous God, husband and wife are to give themselves to each another.

A spiritual life grows as love finds its centre beyond ourselves. Faithful and committed relationships offer a door into the mystery of spiritual life in which we discover this; the more we give of self, the richer we become in soul; the more we go beyond ourselves in love, the more we become our true selves and our spiritual beauty is more fully revealed. In marriage we are seeking to bring one another into fuller life.

It is of course very hard to wean ourselves away from self-centredness. And people can dream of doing such a thing but the hope should be fulfilled it is necessary a solemn decision that, whatever the difficulties, we are committed to the way of generous love.

You have both made your decision today – “I will” – and by making this new relationship, you have aligned yourselves with what we believe is the way in which life is spiritually evolving, and which will lead to a creative future for the human race.

We stand looking forward to a century which is full of promise and full of peril. Human beings are confronting the question of how to use wisely a power that has been given to us through the discoveries of the last century. We shall not be converted to the promise of the future by more knowledge, but rather by an increase of loving wisdom and reverence, for life, for the earth and for one another.

Marriage should transform, as husband and wife make one another their work of art.  It is possible to transform as long as we do not harbour ambitions to reform our partner. There must be no coercion if the Spirit is to flow; each must give the other space and freedom.

Chaucer, the London poet, sums it up in a pithy phrase:

“Whan maistrie [mastery] cometh, the God of Love anon,

Beateth his wynges, and farewell, he is gon.”

As the reality of God has faded from so many lives in the West, there has been a corresponding inflation of expectations that personal relations alone will supply meaning and happiness in life. This is to load our partner with too great a burden. We are all incomplete: we all need the love which is secure, rather than oppressive, we need mutual forgiveness, to thrive.

As we move towards our partner in love, following the example of Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit is quickened within us and can increasingly fill our lives with light. This leads to a family life which offers the best conditions in which the next generation can practise and exchange those gifts which can overcome fear and division and incubate the coming world of the Spirit, whose fruits are love and joy and peace.

I pray that all of us present and the many millions watching this ceremony and sharing in your joy today, will do everything in our power to support and uphold you in your new life. And I pray that God will bless you in the way of life that you have chosen, that way which is expressed in the prayer that you have composed together in preparation for this day:

“God our Father, we thank you for our families; for the love that we share and for the joy of our marriage.

In the busyness of each day keep our eyes fixed on what is real and important in life and help us to be generous with our time and love and energy.

Strengthened by our union help us to serve and comfort those who suffer.  We ask this in the Spirit of Jesus Christ. Amen.”

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3 responses to ““Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.”

  1. Colleen Crowley

    Thank you ever so much because I, too, very much appreciated the homily. My girlfriend and I arose at 3:15, had coffee (tea later), crumpets and marmalade. I wanted to watch this because of 30 years ago and because I wanted to see the streets of London, live over the BBC. There were parties everywhere and for 6 hours bad news was not widely broadcast. I saw the whole wedding through the lense of Joseph Campbell and his ideas regarding the Power of Myth. I phoned my father and aunt and they were excited. My boyfriend watched it 10 miles away and so many others whom I love seemed unified by the live event but also that which it symbolized. The archbishop truly understood and articulated the weddings meaning. How wonderful is the bride and groom’s story, too. To know each other ten years and say, “Let us marry in the sight of the world; we really know each other and still wish to marry!” Amazing Day!

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  2. Ann

    Thanks, Leslie, for sharing the text of the message. I was unexpectedly riveted by the entire event and now am trying to understand why it captured my interest so. It was all so lovely (minus a few fascinators which were so not fascinating) and yet brave and thought full. Just breathtaking for me. In addition to the homily, I really loved the prayer written by the bride and groom. Amen.

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  3. Rosany

    Hi, Leslie. I’m from Brazil and now, after you published the text of the homily, I can understand the meaning of the bishop’s ideas. That is great as I’d thought. Thank you very much!!

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